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Friday Five Things 6/18

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“Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.” – Anne Lamott

I’ve needed some time away from routine and schedule for the past couple weeks, which has included deadlines for this blog. It has been HOT here and that kind of heat always affects my motivation and focus. So I just kind of went with it and got little things done around the house, read a lot, and had small little burst of productivity. It has been good for me and I think I’m ready to get back to my regularly scheduled programming.

  1. My garden is thriving! Both my wildflowers in the front yard and my herbs and veggies in the back are doing great. I’ve had a couple harvests of spinach and kale already and I love not needing to buy it at the store every week, especially since I’ve been into salads recently.
  2. Summer salads. I’m not a big salad person, especially making them myself at home. But this week I made two really delicious salads that I’ll be making again! The first was sliced cucumber and red onions marinated in a vinaigrette (like this). Then I had that over top of spinach (obviously) and torn pieces of fresh mozzarella. Soooo good. The other salad was spinach again, sliced strawberries, goat cheese crumbles, chopped walnuts with a homemade basil vinaigrette (this one is so good!) Both of these were really simple to put together and really refreshing in the heat this week!
  3. Monday morning walks. A friend and I went for a walk on Monday morning and it was so lovely we decided we should do it every week! Now I have something to look forward to at the beginning of each week and hopefully it will act as an anchor in time for kicking off the week the right way!
  4. Painting our house. Like, the outside! We have a red house and the exterior paint is super faded. We’ve tried to find another red that we like, but in the end decided to go with a blue/gray color called Adirondack Blue. And it’s going to be my summer project to do the painting! I figure if I really screw up badly, we can hire someone to touch up trim and stuff, but hopefully we don’t need that. Also really happy we don’t have an HOA because this isn’t something I’m going to get done quickly. We’ll have a partially painted house for awhile…
  5. Character breakthroughs in my writing. In the past couple weeks I’ve really started to get to know the main character in my novel and figure out some of her motivations and neuroses. It’s been fun to write a scene and know exactly how she is going to react to something! Still figuring out some of the other characters, but feeling good about where things are headed.

Friday Five Things 5/28

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“Try as much as possible to be wholly alive, will all your might, and when you laugh, laugh like hell.” – William Saroyan

May Book Report will be published mid-next week! I’m almost finished with a couple books that I want to include for May. In other news, we had a pretty productive week around here and I’m feeling really excited about this summer!

  1. Balance (or lack thereof) – I’ve talked a bit on here about different time/energy management techniques I’ve tried. Time blocking by days so different activities happen at different times. Time blocking by week so different activities happen on different days. Trying to match my daily energy highs and lows with different tasks to be more efficient. Etc… What has been working for me best recently is to let go of the idea that each day or week is going to look and feel the same. So I’ve been spending time Sunday evening or Monday morning plotting out my week with daily to-do lists and then each morning planning out my days based on what needs to get done. For example: Mondays are usually a day that I need to finish up some chores, grocery shop, and run other errands to places I avoid on weekends. I also like to get a long hike in on Monday mornings. So I don’t put writing on my to-do list and just focus on getting other stuff off the list for the week. Then I have writing on my lists for Tues-Fri. Another example is that I don’t always work out at the same time every day. For hikes, I like to go earlier in the day when it isn’t too hot. But I prefer late afternoon neighborhood walks and midday for strength exercises. Just another example of how things that are best practice in general might not be best for specific people! My days aren’t all balanced with each other, but overall I feel that I’m working towards a more even existence.
  2. New back deck furniture – Well, it’s just one piece of new furniture but I rearranged everything into a configuration that is making me want to spend more time out back! When we first moved into this house the back deck was literally falling apart, so we knew it needed to be rebuilt. Tyler put in a lot of time and effort to design and build a gorgeous back deck that really extended our living space outdoors. We got some chairs and a table and he put in some built-in benches around a little fire pit, but it just didn’t feel like a place you wanted to spend time. So I made it a priority this summer to utilize the space more and figured out a solution to maximize our space with only purchasing one new item! I moved the dining table over to the benches and it fits perfectly with them as seating. Then I moved the fire pit to where the table was with the leftover chairs and purchased this outdoor couch. We ordered it from Lowe’s on sale but I’m not seeing it on their site anymore. It’s pretty spacious and the armrests can lower to provide even more bench seating if necessary! Since I set it up we’ve come out here almost every evening and I’ve been doing my daily planning and journaling out here. Mission accomplished!
  3. Garden updates – Last week I finally purchased all my little veggies plants and got them into the dirt. Since we have chickens we don’t plant in the ground, everything is in containers or a table height raised bed Tyler build a few years ago. We’ve already had to fashion a cage of sorts to keep the squirrels off the strawberry plant and I’m assuming we’ll do the same for the peppers and tomatoes eventually, but so far so good! We have spinach, kale, zucchini, cucumbers, jalapeños, bell peppers, two kinds of tomatoes, strawberries, mint, sage, basil, and rosemary! I might still get a few more herbs but for now I think we’ve covered the things we eat most in our house. Also, when we were buying the veggies I saw two little red and white columbines on the clearance shelf and bought them for $4 each. They’re in the ground and coming back to strength nicely. Excited about my ever growing flower collection in the front yard.
  4. Hiking – I found a new trail that might be my new favorite! It’s right up next to the mountains but still had a lot of open meadows space with wildflowers. I also like it because it’s a perfect length and incline to really make it a workout for me, but I can finish it in under 2 hours. I hiked it twice this week, once with my dog (Bama) and once alone. And I’m sure I’ll be going back more in the coming months!
  5. Journaling – Since last fall I’ve been journaling pretty consistently every day. Sure I miss a few days here and there, but the point isn’t perfection. I feel like this habit has really paid off this week as I’ve had some not-so-great feelings swimming around in my head. Just articulating what is bothering me and getting it out on paper has been so helpful! I also think, as a writer, that it helps to start every day getting words on paper, no matter what those words are. “Morning pages” are a thing I’ve learned about and fully support!

Friday Five Things 4/30

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“I could never stay long enough on the shore: the tang of the untainted, fresh, and free sea air was like a cool, quieting thought.” – Helen Keller

Sorry I didn’t get this post out on Friday. I was at the beach with family! I went back and forth about whether to post about vacation here because I know it’s a privilege to spend a week at the beach in the best of times, let alone during a pandemic. But I want to be honest and authentic here as much as possible. We went to St. George Island in Florida. Aside from the kids, who were all from one household, only one adult wasn’t fully vaccinated and he’s had his first shot so he had partial immunity. We rented a house and were mostly just by ourselves at the beach or in the pool so it felt very safe in terms of contact with other people. We did go out to eat a couple times but all in open air dining with plenty of distance from others. The airports felt the most risky, but everyone had masks on and we could spread out for the most part. I know the idea of travel right now, especially for a non-essential trip, is controversial but I really feel like we did it in the safest possible fashion for both us and the people around us.

Anyway, that’s why I didn’t publish on Friday. I was actually able to be mostly unplugged last week which was a real treat! And without further adieu, here’s what is currently bringing me joy.

  1. The beach! Duh. It was so relaxing to sit near the water and listen to the waves crash on the beach. And to watch my niece and nephews play in the water and discover sea creatures. We ate grouper and shrimp and crabs and oysters. We soaked in the sun and the joy of each other’s company. It was the kind of vacation that fills your soul with sunshine.
  2. Budgeting. While this might seem really lame, being disciplined with our household budget for the past few years meant I had plenty of money set aside for our vacation last week and we could go out to eat and make other purchases without stressing too much about the cost. While tracking our budget takes time and discipline, it really makes things easier in the long run. I highly recommend getting a subscription with You Need A Budget. I like their philosophy on budgeting and the tool is super user friendly.
  3. Unplugging. I am a slave to my routine, which includes watching Good Morning America in the morning and then the local and national news every evening. This past week I didn’t turn on the TV at all! Of course I got a few news alerts on my phone, but it was nice to take a break from the self-induced onslaught of news media I usually get.
  4. Daffodils. The first flower to bloom in my yard every year are my daffodils and they are popping their little cheery heads out now. I was worried I’d miss them during our trip, but we got home just in time to enjoy them.
  5. Bees. We lost both our beehives at the beginning of the winter so we have been looking forward to replacing them this spring. We picked up our bees over the weekend and installed them in their hives. Last year we started naming the hives (King’s Landing and Gondor) and this year we have Tatooine and Jakku!

Friday Five Things 4/16

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“So joy can be joy and sorrow can be sorrow, with neither of them casting either light or shadow on the other.” Marilynne Robinson

Before I get into the five things that brought me joy this week, I want to acknowledge that it’s been a difficult and overwhelming week for many, including myself, as we have been buffeted with news of Chauvin’s trial for the murder of George Floyd, the shooting death of Daunte Wright, and the shooting death of Adam Toledo. My heart breaks at the loss of life. And I just cannot see how any of this was justified in any way. I believe there has to be another way to handle these situations and I’m working to educate myself on what it would look like to defund or abolish the police.

On top of those horrific stories came the news of the mass shooting at the FedEx facility in Indianapolis. It can be so difficult to find moments of joy in week’s like this, and I’ll be honest, I wrestled with whether I should share anything today or not. But I will because I think it is important to remember that life is complex. That we can have our hearts break while watching the news and simultaneously be happy that we are safe and cozy in our homes. We don’t have to only feel one way or the other at any given moment. So…if you are interested in where I found my joy this week, please read on.

  1. This recipe – I made this Skillet Chicken Enchilada Bake for dinner last night and I’m already looking forward to having the leftovers for dinner tonight. I added sautéed mushrooms just because we had some that needed to be used up. It was soooo good! And super easy to put together. Also, if you don’t want to deal with cutting fresh corn off the cob, I find that the Del Monte Summer Crisp corn is the best canned corn to use as a substitute. Or frozen would work too!
  2. Planning travel – I know this is still a controversial topic, but as more and more people are getting vaccinated (we are!) and infection rates are going down in areas, we are planning some trips to spend time with family. It’s exciting and anxiety-inducing all at once! But the idea of spending quality time with people we love is worth the other feelings!
  3. New Orleans – The book I’m writing is about New Orleans so the books I’m reading right now are about New Orleans. I spent two summers volunteering down there after Hurricane Katrina and then ended up moving there full time. I stayed for 2 years and I’ve been back to visit several times but I think it has now been the longest stretch of time between visits. Instead I’ve been traveling through my books. And hearing other people describe the city I love so much in a way that only someone who knows it can understand…I’ve even teared up a few times because it feels like home.
  4. Spring snow – We always get one (hopefully) final snowstorm in mid to late April. And it came this week! At our house we got probably 6-7 inches of heavy wet snow. Do I love having my spring interrupted by winter every year? Not especially. But it is bringing much needed moisture to our drought-prone state. And since it has been warm recently, the paved areas are already melted so no need for shoveling!
  5. New clothing – After doing a thorough inventory of my closet and making a list of specific needs/wants, I ordered some new clothes and most of them arrived last week. Some are replacements for other items that were worn out or didn’t fit any more. Some are specific items that I’ve wanted to add to my wardrobe for awhile. A few things didn’t fit as expected so I’ll be returning those and only keeping the things I loved. There’s an influencer I follow on Instagram (her name is Ailsa @_happygocurly_) and she likes to say “your clothes shouldn’t hurt your feelings.” While I’m still on a healthy journey that *might* result in losing some weight, I am so happy to have clothing right now that doesn’t hurt my feelings when I put it on!

Friday Five Things 4/9

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“Enjoy the little things in life, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.” – Robert Bault

Hello! This week it feels like things are getting back to normal at our house after the end of March went off the rails (in both good and bad ways!). So, without too much commentary, here are my favorite five things from this week!

  1. Air fryer shrimp poboys – Since I brought home the air fryer toaster oven, Tyler has slowly been realizing the possibilities. This week’s request was shrimp poboys! I found a recipe online and then altered it to what we like. Shrimp went in an egg wash and then a mix of regular and panko breadcrumbs with some Tony Chachere’s mixed in. Before they went in to cook, I sprayed them with a light coating of oil on both sides. The shrimp cooked on the air fryer setting at 400 for about 4 minutes, then flipped and cooked for another 2 minutes. Served them on some toasted French bread with lettuce, tomato, and an aioli we had in the fridge. SO GOOD!
  2. New Orleans research – This week I ordered a bunch of book, both fiction and non-fiction, to get my research started for the new book idea. I am so excited to start reading them! Expect the next couple book reports to be New Orleans heavy.
  3. Hiking – I’m fully back into hiking season! I look at my hikes as both exercise and meditation, so I’m very excited for it to be a regular part of my weekly routine. Today I’m meeting up with my mom to do one of my favorite nearby hikes. It’s been awhile since just the two of us have spent time together so I’m really looking forward to it.
  4. Geraniums – Last year, the geranium that I had kept alive for almost 4 years finally died when I forgot to bring it inside before an overnight freeze. I was pretty bummed. It had grown into this really weird woody stem with just a few green leaves, but it always flowered really well for me. This week I made a run to Costco and they had geraniums! So I bought two! They are currently living in my guest bathroom until they can move outside full time. They are one of my favorite outside flowers, so I’m really excited to have two already. I’m sure I’ll get more as the weather continues to warm up!
  5. Iced Brown Sugar Oatmilk Shaken Espresso – Have you tried it? It’s a fairly new drink from Starbucks and I hope they never get rid of it. It’s the perfect amount of sweetness for an iced coffee, which is not too much, and has a hint of cinnamon. The stores around us were out of the brown sugar syrup for a couple weeks but they’re back in stock!

April Goals Update

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“There is no glory in star or blossom till looked upon by a loving eye; There is no fragrance in April breezes till breathed with joy as they wander by.” – William Cullen Bryant

Be Present – Being present in March looked a lot different than it did in January and February. I mostly followed my daily time blocking schedule and did really well journaling consistently at the beginning of the month. Then various family things came up and being present turned more into being present for other people. My journaling slipped the last two weeks of the month and my schedule went a little off the rails. But I put my focus and energy where it was needed most and I don’t feel like I failed at my goal in any way. One thing I still have on my aspirational goal list is meditating more often. I’ve had success with doing a couple minutes either right when I wake up or as I’m trying to fall asleep, but no consistent routine yet. So April’s goal is going to be more about consistency in these things than adding anything new.

Focus on the Essential – I bought several items in March, but they were either because I was out of a certain product/item or because I had done the research and decided it was something worth the purchase. For example, I’ve been eyeing the Cuisinart Air Fryer Toaster Oven for a few months and wanting to replace our toaster for awhile. I finally decided to pull the trigger on it when there was a deal going on for 25% off! So far Tyler uses it almost every day to make his lunch sandwiches and I use it several nights a week for dinner. I’m especially excited that we’ll be able to use it this summer on the really hot days when heating up our big electric oven turns our entire living space into a sauna! It was a good reminder that reducing excess purchases is good, but sometimes it really is worth it to make a splurge. In April I know I’ll be making some clothing purchases, so I plan to spend time going through my whole closet to determine what to keep and what to donate. Then I can make an accurate and specific plan of what I need to replace and what I want to add that can be worn with things I already own.

Stay Connected – There was a lot of human connection this month and it really felt great! In addition to spending some quality time with my family in the mountains and having a couple video calls, I also had a much needed long walk at the dog park with a very dear friend. With the weather warming up, I’m anticipating a few more outdoor gatherings with people in my near future. Also excited that more people are getting vaccinated which makes it all so much safer!

Activate Inner SJW – I did not accomplish my March goal for this intention. I wanted to find an organization I could commit to volunteering with and, while I did some initial research, I didn’t follow through in contacting anyone yet. So that’s on the docket for April!

As for the other goals I had for the month, I think I did pretty well. Starting this week I’ll be using a monthly goals and habits tracker to keep closer tabs on how I’m doing day-to-day.

  • 30 minutes of movement every day – Did not hit 30 minutes every day, but I did get in some good exercise most days of March. April is going to look a little different since the weather is getting nicer, I’m planning to get back into my hiking routine. Since I usually hike for a couple hours, it isn’t practical to do every day for me. Aiming for 2 hikes a week and a total of 20 miles for the month!
  • Add 8,000 words to my novel manuscript – I actually think I added about 6,000 words to my manuscript before I decided to ditch it for a new and better book idea. My goal for April is to finish the outline for my new book and get started on research.
  • Read 5 books – Eh, only got 4 under the belt but a couple were pretty long and involved. Setting a goal for 5 again in April and I think I’m already on track.
  • Eat healthier and drink 60oz of water daily – Doing pretty well in this area! I now don’t even have to try very hard to hit 60oz of water every day, it’s my new baseline. So trying to push that a little here and there when I feel like I need it. As for eating healthier, I’ve been doing ok on that. Definitely have been able to try out some new recipes with the air fryer using less oil to cook and that’s been great!
  • 15 minutes of cleaning every day – Yes! This has been such a game changer for me. I now rarely get annoyed with my house being dirty or the kitchen being a mess. Cleaning up the kitchen every night and spending 15 minutes doing other cleaning during the day is paying dividends in lowering my daily anxiety.

Friday Five Things – 3/19/21

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“In the spring, at the end of the day, you should smell like dirt.” – Margaret Atwood

I missed posting my Friday Five Things last Friday due to some personal stuff that came up. But I have still been finding joy in the little things. Hopefully you had some sunny moments in your week, both literal and figurative.

  • Spring weather in Colorado – For those who aren’t familiar, Colorado can have pretty extreme weather swings in March and April. So while the beginning of last week we had beautiful sunny weather with temps nearing 70 degrees and I was working in the yard, over the weekend we got almost 2 feet of snow at our house. Crazy! I kinda like it though. The snow was already half melted by Monday afternoon, but there’s another storm on the horizon for this weekend.
  • Journal prompts – A blogger I follow, Grace Atwood (thestripe.com) shared a link to 11 journal prompts to help you define your personal values. While I think I have a pretty good idea of those already, it’s been interesting to go through these prompts day by day and write about things I don’t usually think about. Check out the list here. So far I’ve discovered that I place a much higher value on things being ‘peaceful’ than I would have thought!
  • New caulk on my bathtub – For a few months I’ve been saying I need to recaulk my tub and I finally did it! I was mostly motivated by procrastination of other things I needed to do. But, once you strip off the old caulk there’s really no going back on the project! I’m proud of myself for doing that little home improvement project on my own and it looks nice and fresh!
  • A clean kitchen – I’ve been taking a few minutes every (well…most) nights to clean up my kitchen and ‘put it to bed’ before I put myself to bed. It started as a little stress reliever, both in terms of feeling productive and mitigating a messy sink in the morning. It has now become part of my nighttime routine that signals to my brain that the day is done. And I LOVE waking up to a clean kitchen with clear-ish countertops. We don’t have a big kitchen or a lot of space, so getting all the dirty dishes into the dishwasher or hand washed every night makes a huge difference.
  • And finally, my Neeno – My grandmother, my mom’s mom. She passed away last week after declining health and some physical setbacks. We never lived close by and in recently years I’ve only been able to see her a few times, the most recent being for my PawPaw’s memorial service in the summer of 2019. She was a smart, opinionated woman. She was so so creative and I think I get my love of storytelling from her. I remember she once wrote a short story about some stuffed animals and their friend Chester Drawers, which was what my uncle called a chest of drawers when he was little. She knitted numerous sweaters and hats and scarves over the years. I still have at least one sweater and a couple hats from her. She will be missed, but I believe she is at peace now and happily reunited with my PawPaw.